APs "living adoption"

Thanks Joy and Stewie for your responses. And no offense taken!

I apologize for using the term "debate" as that was not really my intent (I've never been one comfortable with debating). I believe I used the word "debate" when I should have used the word "discussion" since that was my goal. I really didn't want to create hard feelings or get myself "smote", but merely wanted to get an idea of where AA's are coming from. As I wrote before, I am new to all of this, and have just-born emotions and thoughts that might not be as deep-felt as some of you. I am and was well-aware that this is an Adoptee Support forum, which again, is why I joined. Not that I necessarily felt that I need support, but rather interested in the support other AA's need. I appreciate the discussion that we have had related to this topic but in the future will definitely keep my thoughts regarding AP's to myself and/or left to share on a different message board.