Point well-taken, Solo!
I was not aiming to take a stand for one side or the other...just simply playing "devil's advocate". I am one who likes to think from all different sides of the aisle and like to encourage others to do so as well. I joined this forum because I am very much interested in learning more about the issues facing AA's and I look to all of you to help me in that endeavor. I apologize if I offended anyone...just want to spark a discussion.
I understand, I just get leery, and I will tell you exactly why, it is not because I don't care about adoptive parents and their issues, I do.
I care about people in a general way, I love my own adoptive parents in a very specific way, so much so that I am easily seduced into thinking that I am capable of healing them.
And when I get into thinking about them and their feelings, I tend to do so at the expense of my own. And yes, Marsha is an adoptive mom, BUT not out of infertility, and I do think infertility, when you have grown up your whole life just wanting to be a wife and mommy has got to be incredibly painful.
I feel like I have infertility issues because I care so much about how my own mother feels.
But infertility is a separate issue from adoption.
