They need to make some kind of way to share important information, pictures, letters, gifts and then when both parties are ready, the actual reunion.
I think all adoptee's should AT LEAST know their natural mothers first name, have a picture of her, have important family information, and information on the likes, dislikes and personalities of their natural family. I think it should be updated through letters to each other. Whether the actual addresses are known or its through a middleman of some sort. I think the adoptees should be able to write and recieve letters directly from their natural mother/ siblings/ father again whether the actual address is known or through a middleman of some sort.
Why is a middleperson required....if the adoptee knows her/his mother's name and there is an address - why can't they spend time together? I am talking about having a mother/child relationship - not snippets of information here and there or six month updates with pics and letters to feel some sense of genetic connectedness - this is a tease - dangling the carrot - I mean mother and child together, in person. This is why adoption marketed as way to create a family is messed up....children have a family, that family is very alive for the child....it's because adoption means ownership of a child, a replacement for a bio child. This is wrong. No child should have to fill a void for someone else. Where one void is filled, how many new ones are created?
Why on earth would a child be denied contact with their mother, father and people? How could adopters do this to a child?
And if a mother "steals" back her child, it's probably because her child was stolen from her, first, by the abduction agency and adopters using the most frightening, unscrupulous tactics imaginable.
