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« on: May 01, 2007, 08:51:24 pm » |
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Hey, lovely, caring friends. Need some hugs!
My secretary and dear friend lost her 9 year-old son last night. He was warming up for a basketball game when he collapsed from cardiac failure. T is a devoted single mom who nearly succommed to the pressure to place J, her youngest of two boys, in an adoption. After his birth, she decided that she could not let her son live his life feeling rejected by his mother. She has provided a loving and safe home for her 2 boys while working full time and pursuing her degree in human resources.
When I was going through the throes of my daughter's pregnancy, she was my greatest supporter who forced me to think past my feelings and my daughter's feelings. She forced me to face the rejection that my grandson would feel as an adoptee, knowing that he had been "put out" by a family that was perfectly capable of raising him.
Please send prayers, chants, karma in my direction so that I have the wisdom to help T on her long journey of survival.
very, very sad Happy G'Ma
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« Reply #1 on: May 01, 2007, 08:56:23 pm » |
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omg that is so sad! Hugs to you and your friend & her family. that's just beyond words, how devastating it must be for her.
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« Reply #2 on: May 01, 2007, 08:57:08 pm » |
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Oh G'Ma - that is so sad. I am so very sorry. It's times like this that put me at a loss for words. I'm sure you will be a wonderful and supportive friend to her during this time.
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« Reply #3 on: May 01, 2007, 08:59:55 pm » |
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I cannot think of anything to write at this. 9 years old; my god. I'm so, so sorry.
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« Reply #4 on: May 01, 2007, 09:12:57 pm » |
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Oh G'ma, I'm so sorry. You and your friend will be in my thoughts.
I wish there was something else I could say....
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« Reply #5 on: May 01, 2007, 09:15:04 pm » |
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I am so sad to hear this...I have a nine-year-old son myself....oh dear lord what this woman must be going through. I pray that you have the strength to support your friend thru this horrible time, this is going to be horrible...you need to keep your strength and spirit up if you want to be a support to her...many many good thoughts going out to you gma...you can do it...
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« Reply #6 on: May 01, 2007, 09:18:40 pm » |
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Bless you all! Link to news article. This is the only forum that I would ever post this link on. It is an integrity thing - KWIM?? www.nbc4.com/news/13228137/detail.htmlG'Ma |
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« Reply #7 on: May 01, 2007, 09:28:48 pm » |
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you are DEFINATELY in my prayers and thoughts. I am so sorry.
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« Reply #8 on: May 01, 2007, 09:37:34 pm » |
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I'm so very sorry to hear about your friend's tragic loss. I will be praying and thinking of you, T., and the rest of her family and her friends for strength and support during this incredibly difficult time. I'm so sorry.
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« Reply #9 on: May 01, 2007, 09:55:04 pm » |
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Oh I am so sorry that is so hard to understand
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Happy G'Ma, I am so sorry.
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Oh Happy G'ma (well - not so happy right now understandably...)
I'm thinking of you and your dear friend.
9 years old - that is so very tragic.
Such sad news.
Biggest hugs....
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I'm so sorry.
That is an awful awful thing.
I'll keep you and your friend in my thoughts.
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Oh, Happy G'ma, how sad. I'm so very sorry. You and your friend will be in my thoughts.
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((((happygmom))))
Quote from article:
"He's never had any problems," she said. "He's 9 years old. He gets a physical every year. Nothing has ever been wrong. Never."
Fleming was told that Juan fell, went into a seizure and stopped breathing.
The D.C. medical examiner confirmed no signs of foul play, but the cause of death is pending the results of toxicology tests. Those results could take weeks
Sigh, this sounds WAY too familiar... My thoughts are with your friend, I have experienced something similar, shockingly similar actually... Everything I quoted was exactly the same details as happened to my cousin Joseph, except he was 18... He was jogging, which he did everyday... Toxicology took months, and when it came back, the one and only thing in his system was Vitamin C :( He took such great care of himself... Never drank a beer or even smoked a cigarette...
When this happened, I had an epiphany, and now I strongly believe that when things like this happen, it's because they are VERY very special people, who have a higher calling, a higher purpose in this world if you will... Maybe they are angels, I'm not sure, but they definitely were too good for this world...
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