THIS is definately a GREAT idea! I have mentioned it to a few adopters, and that is when you truly find out if they're in it for THEMSELVES or for the baby. Or you get the "what about the mothers who don't want to parent" "our child was already abandoned" "we aren't ready to take care of a mother too" blah blah blah
BLAH BLAH BLAH indeed Gersh.
I just LOVE the justifications that they can find.
Great idea Julie. It sure would show who was for real about helping and making a real difference in someones life - instead of just their own.
I agree, Possum. What we would learn (if we don't already know) is that most PAPs or APs are in it to parent children. Problem is, you never really get to parent other people's children. "Parenting" isn't just a verb. In the long run, it involves genetic mirroring and so much more. Adopted kids never get that (unless their "open adoption" is truly open - which is just a different kind of hell, IMHO). The opportunity to "parent" is only presented with bio children. Everything else is a substitute for the original - whether it is the child or parenting or whatever.
When is the world going to figure out that children are simply not that pliable (okay, Petunia is an anomale)?