Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change
March 28, 2024, 06:30:44 am
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
News: WE'RE MOVING ON UP...
see general section for sticky with info....
 
   Home   Help Search Gallery Links Staff List Login Register  
Pages: 1 ... 3 4 [5] 6 7 ... 10
 41 
 on: May 08, 2007, 10:26:55 pm 
Started by Addie Pray - Last post by SoloZolo
Quote
I took her "adoption" very seriously and treated her like a queen.  I treated her the way I wish my aparents had treated me.
I would actually say that to my husband, "And she's just a cat!  I was a person!  I treat my cat better than they treated me. "
Boo hoo, I know, but it's true. I took my responsibilities  to my cat better than my stupid aparents ever took them for me.

I do the same, Issy, with all my cats.  I let them be cats (I don't expect anything else) and treat them with the utmost respect.  I wish I had been treated half as well.

 42 
 on: May 08, 2007, 10:21:39 pm 
Started by SoloZolo - Last post by SoloZolo
Thanks for the comments, guys.  I was reading at another (ahem) board, and some APs were asserting their expertise about the adoption experience because they are "living" it.  Frankly, it pissed me off (I am sure this surprises you - lol).  I didn't comment - just clicked back over here.

 Azn

 43 
 on: May 08, 2007, 09:38:48 pm 
Started by Addie Pray - Last post by Hocca
Hocca was one of my nick names growing up. In the past I have always posted under my own name Christin but this time I chose to be a nony mous.
My avatar reminded me of a beautiful angel statue which overlooks my mothers grave. That I found a grave and not my mother is a grief  that I will carry with me forever.

 44 
 on: May 08, 2007, 08:37:10 pm 
Started by SoloZolo - Last post by Nina
K, lets go down the list -

I feel -

self concious   because I am adopted? CHECK  because I have adopted children? NO
fear of abandonment    because I am adopted? CHECK  because I have adopted children? NO       
people pleasing    because I am adopted? CHECK  because I have adopted children? NO

MARSHA, MARSHA, MARSHA!!!

The entire list is so good I feel like pinning it up on my desk.  Or sending it to some people I know who say stuff like, "I always wanted to be adopted!"

I never read or heard any a-parent say that and I'm glad I haven't.   Evil 

 45 
 on: May 08, 2007, 08:33:36 pm 
Started by Addie Pray - Last post by dory
I guess I use her name to keep her memory alive AND to remain somewhat anonymous.

What?

You all think I'm a freak now, don't you?

Not at all. My bestest cat ever also died about two years ago. I had her for 18 years and loved her soooooo much. I know I'll have cats the rest of my life and while I'll love each and every one of them - no cat in the world could compare to her in my eyes. She had the most wonderful personality ever - my dear sweet little Dazzlecat.


 46 
 on: May 08, 2007, 07:57:26 pm 
Started by Addie Pray - Last post by issycat
My cat's name was Isabel.  She was the best cat ever.  I adopted her from the Humane Society When I was in my mid twenties.  She had been there for six weeks because her **** former owners brought her in pregnant (WTF! Right?).  They euthanized her kittens after she had them.  Tongue
Anyway, she was the best cat ever she was almost human like (and yet, I never called her my furbaby, ewww!).  I took her "adoption" very seriously and treated her like a queen.  I treated her the way I wish my aparents had treated me.
I would actually say that to my husband, "And she's just a cat!  I was a person!  I treat my cat better than they treated me. "
Boo hoo, I know, but it's true. I took my responsibilities  to my cat better than my stupid aparents ever took them for me.
So my cat died about two years ago.  We all still miss her especially my older son. 

I guess I use her name to keep her memory alive AND to remain somewhat anonymous.

What?

You all think I'm a freak now, don't you?

 47 
 on: May 08, 2007, 07:19:39 pm 
Started by SoloZolo - Last post by Gershom
unfortunately 5 times out of 6 whatever an aparent says bothers me.... so my anser to this is YES.

the handful and i sincerly mean HANDFUL marsha included that "get it" don't bother me AT ALL.  but the other 1000000000000000000 aparents..... just don't get it.  Wink

 48 
 on: May 08, 2007, 06:11:08 pm 
Started by SoloZolo - Last post by Theresa
Oh I know dismissal LOL!!

 49 
 on: May 08, 2007, 05:55:47 pm 
Started by SoloZolo - Last post by Marsha
Marsha that's so good. That deserves a page all it's own on your website

I'm always scared to write "this is how adoptees feel" kind of stuff for my site because I just know people are going to go "you're not even a real adoptee" and completely dismiss whatever I'm saying. I don't want my status making the statement not be heard, you know?

 50 
 on: May 08, 2007, 05:38:54 pm 
Started by SoloZolo - Last post by Theresa
Marsha that's so good. That deserves a page all it's own on your website

Pages: 1 ... 3 4 [5] 6 7 ... 10
Bookmark this site! | Upgrade This Forum
SMF For Free - Create your own Forum
Powered by SMF | SMF © 2016, Simple Machines
Privacy Policy